tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32086169.post2337227934604143576..comments2024-02-18T02:18:52.733-06:00Comments on I'm Neutral: romancelukehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14933996475380135421noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32086169.post-63985682703611638702009-04-13T18:58:00.000-05:002009-04-13T18:58:00.000-05:00i really like bishop zac`s quote. its true. its tr...i really like bishop zac`s quote. its true. its true for community too, having a same mission. not being the same, mind you, but going in the same direction.<br /><br />being here in nica has stripped a lot of those false ideas i had...and for the better. im not going to have some over the hill talk all about it wedding...im borrowing my dress. the most important thing is that im getting to share with friends and family this person, this life i`ve decided to embark on...and i don`t expect it to be perfect. i know Moi`s weak areas, and my own. i know how we can annoy each other or how we can get off track. but i find that it is this next part of learning to love God and love others...to let go of I and live in the we.<br /><br />its just a choice, to say i choose you to be a part of the rest of my life...will you have me be the same partner to yours? and that in all of it, its always looking forward, side by side, chasing after Jesus and His kingdom.<br /><br />i know you`re wrestling brother. you know i know how you feel. and i just encourage you to keep trudging forward, asking those questions, challenging and refining ideas and beliefs. keep going luke. He goes before you<br /><br />nica love,<br />sarahSarah Amadorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06628199623206299940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32086169.post-38570937890518440422009-04-13T00:46:00.000-05:002009-04-13T00:46:00.000-05:00i think most decent guys would desire the same thi...i think most decent guys would desire the same things millie mentioned from a woman. we want them to show us love through sacrifice, we want them to delight in our 'beauty' if you will (could be physical or the way you do a particular task so well). the thing i've found from my own experience however - and this is where the false notion of romance from these movies comes in - is that coming to the table with these expectations or picking "the one" because of their qualities that benefit you is inherently selfish. it's won't take long before one or the other don't always feel like filling that role (for whatever reason) and then what are they? are they the "one?" things fall apart.<BR/><BR/>i think marriage should be entered into with the other person's blessing for you to give yourself up for them. asking someone to marry you is asking them to allow you to begin a lifelong choice of selfless love, not because they make you feel warm and fuzzy inside (that helps), but because you see a person worth a lifetime of loving.Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03960976597860862045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32086169.post-86812776894179278662009-04-12T13:49:00.000-05:002009-04-12T13:49:00.000-05:00I don't know if I'd go as far as calling them p*rn...I don't know if I'd go as far as calling them p*rn, but I do hate "chick flicks" with the exception of some clean ones like Pride and Prejudice. They are mostly full of lies. <BR/>" girls help me out here. it's like you have to have that "romance." or at least you've been programmed to think that right" well I don't know. We want a man to persue us, for sure, and we want him to be willing to do so at cost to himself. We want to feel assured in his love for us. We want him to delight in our beauty. But I think that we also care about him being real, and I for one care a great deal about him being Godly. Any girl who is worth her salt will want her man to follow/seek/love/obey/sacrifice for Jesus first and love her second. But without mention of being jaded I don't think I'm a very good representation of this culture. Anyway, for what it's worth, I do believe that some, and I say SOME, not all that we think of as romance, but some of the "romance" is actually innate in our beings. You know what you should check out the blog ylcf.org. I know it's for girls, but you should still go there. Another thing that might get you inside girls heads, or at least the heart of some, is Debbi Pearl's book, "Created to be his helpmeet". But may I warn you that is a very much for girls/women book, so read at your own risk! (I can't BELIEVE I just reccomended that book to a guy.)Milliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13655941877149794421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32086169.post-22287217924166897092009-04-12T00:01:00.000-05:002009-04-12T00:01:00.000-05:00okay luke, at the expense of intense ridicule for ...okay luke, at the expense of intense ridicule for being the first one to read this and post a reply... i would have to say not to give up yet. there are still those out there who would hold with the teaching of that ugandan pastor... that quite honestly the best partner is someone who shares your same passion for serving the Lord, and is willing to do it alongside you! i know they still exist; i've met them. they haven't been confuddled into thinking that its all flowers and chocolates; they don't want expensive dinners, or stupid hallmark cards. they are more worried about a heart issue... someone you share a beating heart with. (and don't write that off as cheesy, though it may sound that way... i really mean that in the best way. like the way that you would feel when you meet anyone who has your exact same heart for the gospel, or ministry, or loving God) <BR/>but i guess you shouldn't listen to me either... cause who am i to be talking about all this as if i know anything about it either...<BR/><BR/>p.s. did like your point on the chick-flick "p*rn"...Jo N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16016215202142764827noreply@blogger.com